Let Them Theory: Reclaim Power by Releasing Control
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Books
- "Let Them Theory" by Mel Robbins - This book is the core of the episode's discussion, providing the framework for understanding and managing difficult relationships.
Articles & Papers
- 2024 meta analysis out of Ohio State - This study found no scientific evidence that venting reduces anger, and in fact, it often makes people angrier.
- Research from UCLA - This research indicates that when someone listens to a friend vent, they often feel closer and more supportive of that friend.
- Research from Harvard trained neuroscientist Dr. Joel Bolt Taylor - This research suggests that emotions are chemical surges that last about 90 seconds if not fueled by reaction.
People Mentioned
- Dr. Ann D - A depth psychologist, writer, and wise individual who shared a life-changing insight with Mel Robbins about adults being like eight-year-old children inside big bodies.
- Dr. Joel Bolt Taylor - A Harvard-trained neuroscientist whose research on emotions is referenced.
Organizations & Institutions
- Ohio State University - Mentioned as the source of a meta-analysis on anger and venting.
- UCLA - Mentioned for its research on the effects of listening to someone vent.
Tools & Software
- OnStar - Mentioned for its features like using Google Assistant for calls/texts, vehicle locate, and Super Cruise driver assistance technology.
- Expedia - Mentioned as a resource for booking travel, comparing accommodations, and bundling services to save money.
- Amica Insurance - Mentioned as an insurance partner that prioritizes customer care and compassion.
- Apple Gift Card - Suggested as a gift for self-improvement, usable for apps or other Apple products.
- Bombas - Mentioned for comfortable socks, slippers, and tees, with a donation made for every purchase.
- Cozy Earth - Recommended for comfortable bamboo pajamas.
- AT&T - Mentioned for its guarantee of staying connected.
- Celebrity Cruises - Mentioned for travel to various destinations and for sponsoring a bonus segment about taking breaks.
- Medik8 - A skincare brand with a clinically proven advanced pro-collagen plus peptide cream.
- Capella University - An institution offering online learning with support from enrollment specialists, academic coaches, and career coaches.
- Volvo XC60 - A mid-size SUV mentioned for its calming features like a quieter cabin and Bowers & Wilkins audio.
Websites & Online Resources
- onstar.com - Mentioned for learning more about OnStar features.
- expedia.com - Implied as the website to book travel with Expedia.
- amica.com - Mentioned for getting an insurance quote.
- apple.com/giftcard - Mentioned for learning more about Apple Gift Cards.
- bombas.com/mel - Mentioned for purchasing Bombas products with a discount.
- celebritycruises.com - Mentioned for learning more about Celebrity Cruises.
- medik8.us - Mentioned for discovering Medik8 skincare products.
- capella.edu - Mentioned for learning more about Capella University.
- a-diamond-is-forever.com - Mentioned for discovering Desert Diamonds.
Other Resources
- Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) - A research-backed form of psychotherapy mentioned as the source for an "anchor tool" for managing emotions and stress.