Daily Vision Reinforcement for Sustained Personal Growth

Key Quotes

"I woke up on Christmas Eve and I was in such a horrible emotional place that I mean I remember calling my sponsor losing my mind often like maybe once every few years like it was really really tough I called another um older woman that is kind of a spiritual mentor in my life and on Christmas Eve I was like I need to come over I need like just 15 minutes of facetime like I was not okay and the hardest part about that was I couldn't figure out why I was not okay everything that was going on in the world everything that was going on in my life the time of year pointed to this just should be magical and everything should be amazing and it was not"

Moira Kucaba shares a personal story to illustrate the profound impact of emotional distress, even during a time typically associated with joy. This anecdote highlights how external circumstances do not always align with internal feelings, emphasizing the importance of understanding and addressing one's emotional state. Kucaba's experience underscores that even during holidays, internal struggles can be overwhelming and difficult to reconcile with expectations.

"I realized just having kind of like not done that for two weeks it slowly eroded every single day just my my footing right and it left me in this place of just despair and not being spiritually or emotionally on the beam at all and so ever since then I have realized the importance of this morning process of your vision of the life that you want to create and just connecting to that every day"

Moira Kucaba explains how neglecting a consistent morning routine, which includes connecting with her vision and goals, led to a significant decline in her emotional and spiritual well-being. Kucaba emphasizes that this realization solidified her understanding of the critical role daily practices play in maintaining stability. She advocates for prioritizing this connection to one's vision as a foundational element for sustained emotional grounding.

"We cannot know where we're going we can't know what we want unless we assess where we are it's kind of the old adage of like if you were lost going to your girlfriend's house and you called her and you said hey can you i can't figure out how to get there can you give me directions what is the first thing she's going to say she's going to say well where are you you she can't give you direction you can't give your life direction unless you assess where you are"

Moira Kucaba uses an analogy of asking for directions to explain the necessity of self-assessment before setting goals. Kucaba argues that understanding one's current position is a prerequisite for effective planning and direction-setting in life. She stresses that without this initial assessment, any attempt to move forward will lack the necessary foundation for meaningful progress.

"Contrast equals clarity you will hear me say that over and over and over again contrast equals clarity once we know what we don't like the exact opposite of that is exactly what we want in our vision"

Moira Kucaba introduces the principle that identifying what one dislikes in their life directly leads to clarity on what they desire. Kucaba explains that by articulating the "contrast" -- the negative aspects -- one can precisely define the "clarity" -- the desired opposite. This method, according to Kucaba, simplifies the process of vision creation by leveraging existing awareness of dissatisfaction.

"When you state an affirmation that does not feel like truth to you right now it's creating inner conflict right you don't believe it and if you don't believe it you're not going to feel it and the only way for affirmations to come true is that you actually feel its true you believe it in your bones right so sometimes we just need to add some statements a few words before the affirmation"

Moira Kucaba discusses the limitations of traditional affirmations when they do not align with an individual's current reality. Kucaba explains that affirmations create inner conflict if they are not perceived as truthful, hindering their effectiveness. She suggests modifying affirmations by adding introductory phrases like "I love knowing that" or "More and more I feel" to bridge the gap between current belief and desired outcome.

"So often we're focused on habits and actions when we want to change something in our life and the reason that never works or the reason after a week or two we usually just throw it out it's why all of our new year's resolutions don't work it's because we're focused on the habits we want to shift but we haven't changed our identity right when you get rooted in a new identity the habits the actions they change automatically because this is who you are"

Moira Kucaba asserts that focusing solely on habits and actions is an ineffective strategy for lasting change, citing the common failure of New Year's resolutions. Kucaba argues that true transformation stems from shifting one's core identity. She explains that once a new identity is established, desired habits and actions naturally follow as a consequence of that internal change.