Understanding Performance Anxiety: Threat, Perception, and Response
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Books
- "When Things Fall Apart" by Pema Chödrön - This book was referenced for its story about confronting fear and the idea of not having to do what fear tells you.
- "Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel - Mentioned for its discussion on the role of selfishness or focusing on one's own experience in sexual encounters to enhance excitement and connection.
Research & Studies
- The 93/7 Rule (University of Alberta) - This research suggests that 93% of the time, worries and "what ifs" about future negative events do not actually happen, with only 7% becoming reality.
People Mentioned
- Matt Haig - Quoted for his perspective that mental health problems or anxiety do not define who you are, but are something experienced.
Organizations & Institutions
- Center for Suicide Prevention - Partnered with Shelly Coulter to train professionals in suicide intervention skills.
Websites & Online Resources
- besttherapist.com - A therapist directory that vets therapists to help users find a good fit.
- Shelly Coulter & Associates Counseling and Coaching (Website and social media: Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook) - Shelly Coulter's group practice offering personalized therapy and assessments.
Other Resources
- Reddit (subreddit ask men) - A Reddit community from which a question about coping with performance anxiety in dating was shared.
- Reddit (cptsd community) - A Reddit community from which a user's experience with crippling performance anxiety at work was shared.
- Reddit (subreddit piano) - A Reddit community from which a request for absurd tips for performance anxiety was shared.